Okay, so today is Dear Friends' Son's birthday party.

Here is the deal: when Rosie had her girls-only party, their son was invited, so that they wouldn't stop speaking to us. Though, I wonder why I even bother. THEN Rosebud had his little kid's party, aged 5 and under. I have invided DFs' daughter (then 3) but not son who is 8. They got sooo pissed at me! They told the neighbors that since Son is not invited they won't let Daughter come either. Note that Daughter was not invited to Rosie's party but they had no problems then. So they did not RSVP or anything and on the day of Rosebud's party they called saying that Daughter got "sick". Well, fine whatever. They did not come to his birthday party the year before either.

So, for Son's birthday party they invited both my kids, but they did not invite a couple of neighbor kids, totally random because those not invited's siblings were invited! One family totally boycotted the party, the other is mad at them beyond repair I think.
DFs' excuse was safey because they could handle only 10 kids, but then in the end they invited several other children totally throwing out the window their safety crap excuse.
It made no sense.
And they wonder why they are not better liked around here. And of course they blame me for "spreading rumors". Well, I can't take credit. They do much damage on their own.